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FAQs of Life

“Mamma, what is FAQ?” asked my immensely inquisitive son.

That was an easy question to answer. But, the question set me thinking. What exactly are the Frequently Asked Questions in life? And why do we ask them? Of course, the FAQs of Life vary from person to person depending upon his/her situation, circumstance and perspective. In fact, even different priorities in life result in different FAQs.

Childhood FAQs

When we are young, little children, we seem to face the maximum number of FAQs that plague our lives. From what is that shining object out there to why is Papa shouting at Mama. From why are the trees green, why is the sun yellow, what is that elephant cloud doing up in the sky, can I eat this soft thing ( incidentally, an eraser), why can’t I run like that big boy, to isn’t it nice that the TV changes colorful pictures just at the press of a button to several other questions. We all have asked these FAQs, got the answers for some, got diverted by something else midway but the Frequently Asked Questions remained.

Teenage FAQs

I remember one of my most predominant FAQs when I was a teenager. And, it was ‘how can I talk to the boy next door without feeling shy?’ I remember asking this FAQ to an a much older 12th Std neighbour girl who I felt would know better considering the fact that she had a brother (while I didn’t) and also, I could see that she was very comfortable with the boys in the colony. Today, the teenager either seems to have less number of FAQs or get their FAQs answered much faster than we used to. There are lots of sources to get answers today like over-informed friends, books, television, and internet. Way back, friends and magazines were the only way you could get inquisitive, ‘not to be openly asked’ questions answered. Today, the line between ‘can be asked openly’ and ‘sensitive’ questions no longer exists. 

Twenties FAQs

The 20’s have a charm of their own. You have become an adult. The entire world is out there for you to conquer. You have so many dreams – to complete that course you wanted, to take up that job you always found fascinating, to make more friends, to just about do anything. Nothing else seems to matter. You are so intensely absorbed in what you are doing whether it is just having fun, getting into a relationship etc. Here, the FAQs come slowly, steadily and you find that the answers are not too hard to get although you may still wonder, Why are my parents so ‘unnecessarily’ worried when I come home late?, Why doesn’t my sister mind her own business? Or Should I take ‘the plunge?’ in case you are in a relationship and your hormones are urging you forward! Unfortunately, this happy dreamy phase passes away faster than you can imagine.

Thirties FAQs

The 30’s phase is a kind of more chilled out period because you just busy running your life either the way you wanted or maybe not. You are busy working, taking care of kids, cooking, in one word, managing it all. The FAQs that come during this phase are more like, What should I do this weekend? (in case you are not married), Should  I send my daughter for those keyboard classes?, When should I fix an appointment with the dentist?, Will I be free this week-end for the facial?, When are we (you, hubby and kid/s) ever going to make it that nice new restaurant? Etc. Sometimes, the 30’s take a longer time to go but go they definitely do……

Forties FAQs

….And then, you land in your 40’s. More or less, just a carry over from the 30’s phase but still different because you know that you are no longer as young as your heart feels. The countable strands of white hair that threatened you with their presence now decide to come to you with a vengeance. And then, you ask (if you haven’t asked in your 30’s already) Should I colour my hair? The casual word, ‘Aunty’ that barged into your life in the 30’s now seems to reside for eternity. The FAQs now, go something like this:

Can I ever fit into those jeans again?

Am I getting really getting old (after the usual round of love making which has now made you tired faster!!?)

Why can’t I look younger?

If only I could dance with him (‘him’ who? Hubby man! Don’t get ideas!!) like we did way back?

50’s FAQs

You are worried about your children. The FAQs are more about your son or daughter’s job interview, wedding, grandchildren, your husband’s cholesterol and maybe, God. Yes! Sometimes you wonder, Why Lord, all this moh maya? Or maybe, when a family friend passes away, you sadly ask yourself, When is my due date although you still want to experience more of life and share your family’s world!

60’s and 70’s FAQs

Life edges on and is beautiful and contented if you have nurtured a hobby or an interest that keeps your mind and time constructively busy. The FAQs now are more health related like:

I wonder how much my BP is today (when you feel weak) or maybe spiritually related when you ask, God is there anything else left for me to do? Often now, you indulge in memory flashbacks and recollect your past years, wondering when you are alone, Had I not done that where would I have been now? Of course, your grandchildren mean the world to you and you relive their childhood and your motherhood again with them.

Frequently Asked Questions are a part of life. Nobody can escape them. That’s how we learn to grow and evolve. But, what we ask can definitely make us happy, sad or depressed depending upon how we answer the FAQs. So, friends, whatever your age, keep asking those FAQs and happy living!

Cheerio.

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21 Comments

  1. Sneha

    Beautifully compiled. Loved it… Since I’m going through the twenties phase, I’m now worried that it shouldn’t pass with the blink of an eye!
    Any words of wisdom, welcome!

  2. Hi Sneha,

    Good you liked it. I hope every one connects somewhere in the article since all of us go through these stages.

    Have fun, nurture relationships and be grateful. Nothing more we need and you will be sailing through life happily!

  3. Bhargavi

    Shail,
    That’s a nice one and one FAQ (read as a doubt) ..how did you get the FAQ’s till the 70s?
    As I am in the 40s range, my main FAQ is…why my mind is blocked… with no new ideas to face any situation with ease..but partially I get answers to it…blame it on hormones, mid-life crisis, etc…but still not satisfied with that!

  4. Hi Shail, I must thank your son for asking the question about FAQ. Your thought provoking post helped me to recollect my FAQs. Many of my FAQs went unanswered due to various reasons. In our country, we tend to discourage anyone who asks probing questions. Parents have no time to answer the queries of children. As a result children are forced to find answers from unreliable sources which may mislead them.

  5. Bhargavi :
    Shail,
    That’s a nice one and one FAQ (read as a doubt) ..how did you get the FAQ’s till the 70s?
    As I am in the 40s range, my main FAQ is…why my mind is blocked… with no new ideas to face any situation with ease..but partially I get answers to it…blame it on hormones, mid-life crisis, etc…but still not satisfied with that!

    Hi Bhargavi,

    Glad you liked the article. I tried imagining myself in each of this stages in life and what I would probably ask also, observing other people’s lives and the questions that they ask.

    Yes, some of the questions could be health related as you mentioned for the age but there will always be some FAQ that will remain unanswered!

  6. A.Hari :
    Hi Shail, I must thank your son for asking the question about FAQ. Your thought provoking post helped me to recollect my FAQs. Many of my FAQs went unanswered due to various reasons. In our country, we tend to discourage anyone who asks probing questions. Parents have no time to answer the queries of children. As a result children are forced to find answers from unreliable sources which may mislead them.

    Hi Hari,
    True, I agree. We usually shy away from answering many FAQs ourselves, living in illusion so where do we even take the initiative to answer our children’s questions. Only when things go wrong do we think, that maybe if only we had answered those FAQs things would be different.
    Thanks Hari.

  7. laxmi prakash

    hi shail.
    good compiled FAQs for all ages. My age FAQs are perfectly matching with your imaginations.
    Great
    thanks
    Laxmi

  8. Beautifully described!!! 🙂

    And I am so glad I am still in my twenties!!! 😀 😀

  9. laxmi prakash :
    hi shail.
    good compiled FAQs for all ages. My age FAQs are perfectly matching with your imaginations.
    Great
    thanks
    Laxmi

    Hi Laxmi,

    Nice that my imagination gels with your FAQs. It’s fascinating isn’t it, the kind of FAQs we all have throughout our lives irrespective of our ages!

  10. Ashwathy :
    Beautifully described!!!
    And I am so glad I am still in my twenties!!!

    Hi Ashwathy,

    Great you liked my article. I liked your honest response whether or not the FAQs I have written for the 20s gels with yours. I just tried to use some of my FAQs with those of the people I have seen, observed in my life and others and used it for all the ages. That kind of prepares me too no, for the future FAQs.

    Ha! Ha!

  11. Since I’m going through the twenties phase, I’m now worried that it shouldn’t pass with the blink of an eye!
    Any words of wisdom,

  12. Thanks for stopping by Turk. As far as suggestion goes, just make the most of the 20s phase. Dream away but also keep some back up files for those dreams for in the 20s phase it is easy to lose track.

  13. Shail,
    You used FAQs as an excuse to beautifully sum up our lives. As you age not only the questions change, but also your interest in finding a quick answer wanes. Many times you learn to live with the questions than to exert yourselves for the answers.
    One general FAQ which will be there in the teens or early twenties. Which is the most beautiful phase of one’s life? The hyper-active adolescence, the career-oriented adulthood, or the health-oriented middle age or the death-oriented old age?
    I have passed through enough stages in life to give the right answer. The most beautiful time of your lives is the present moment. Every age, every phase has its beauty. and none is so beautiful that you want to be stuck there for ever.
    I am looking forward to growing old and even to the final phase. That sounds very interesting to me.
    Well, Shail, another well written article, which is sure to disturb readers of all the ages, as I could see from the comments of a twenty-year old.
    srihdar

  14. Ha ha Sridhar. That’s why I was looking forward to your comment for this particular article. Because I know that your keen sense of observation will definitely find out something.:)

    Thanks for the appreciation and for the perspective about enjoying the present and not dwell too much in the past.

  15. punith

    I recently came across your blog, nice blog.

  16. Thanks Punith. We come across a host of questions regarding our mental and physical health as we grow older. And surprisingly, we find ways of tackling them too.

  17. A well conceived post in a chronological order of age. What an idea.The other FAQ in the age group 50-70 can be-
    Why children do not listen to us, Why do they react or oppose to what ever is asked to do,why do they not take care of us, why we are being used as a baby sitter etc etc.

  18. S.R.Ayyangar :
    A well conceived post in a chronological order of age. What an idea.The other FAQ in the age group 50-70 can be-
    Why children do not listen to us, Why do they react or oppose to what ever is asked to do,why do they not take care of us, why we are being used as a baby sitter etc etc.

    I agree absolutely Shri Ayyangar. Children not listening to parents or doing just the opposite is one vital and common FAQ. Baby sitting! Yes, that too.
    Thanks.

  19. knot2share

    Heyy Shail
    Very interesting read and you did get them all right! Nicely perceived. I agree with Sridharji a lot. Every stage has its beauty. I am loving my phase and its transitions. Sometimes I find I am a bit “jet-lagged” and trying to catch up with things in a hurry :-).

  20. knot2share :
    Heyy Shail
    Very interesting read and you did get them all right! Nicely perceived. I agree with Sridharji a lot. Every stage has its beauty. I am loving my phase and its transitions. Sometimes I find I am a bit “jet-lagged” and trying to catch up with things in a hurry .

    Hi Shree,

    Nice to see you visiting some of my older blogs. That’s encouragement when you know that some of your older write-ups are still interesting enough for people to read. And with this particular blog post, time indeed matters. So, my FAQ about whether my articles will be remembered with time, as I age, well I can say a wee bit immodestly, “Maybe!”

  21. azima

    Hello shail ji, very realistic n sentiment blog.it made me to go back to my memories of each age n stage.It made me laugh n smile n mused.every age n stage has its own responsilbilities n fun.

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