A Crown Too Heavy for her!
All that she wanted was some more love. Isn’t it what we all want? But, commoners like us don’t have the burden of heavy monarchy lying on our shoulders. Married when very young, hers was a fairytale wedding marrying a prince and riding into the sunset with the “and they lived happily ever after” kind of ending. Unfortunately, that was not to be. Born yesterday, 49 years ago, this Princess was like any other ordinary girl (if we ignore her links to the aristocracy). The same dreams of a happy home, carefree life and all that jazz. But it was not to be. The trauma of parents divorcing, of living apart from one parent, of being made to live with her mother and then with her father, having to tolerate a stepmother she did not like and so on and so forth. Her low academic profile did not deter her from dreaming, of singing, dancing, swimming and diving.
Her fault was that she was judged to be THE perfect bride material – aristocratic descent, little or no sexual experience( read as presumed virgin) and a follower of the Church of England, all or most of which the current wife of Prince Charles did not have then and so was supposedly rejected. Also, unlike Diana who was only around 20 years then she was around 16 months older! So, that clinched the deal, sorry the wedding and her life! Not that she was the ideal Royal bride and Royal family member! She tried hard to keep up to the standards of the Royal family but also attempted to bring in the element of commonness in her family. Like for example, naming her children, selecting their nanny herself, selecting their schools, planning their outings and basically living her life centered around her children, not the Royal family.
All that she wanted to be was a devoted wife and mother. But that was not to be again. Differences in thoughts, upbringing and views with Prince Charles brought about a separation that could have been done without like in any other relationship. And, being VVVIPs made their conflicts, infidelities and relationship all the more sensational.
How sad it is that one needs such problems to turn to the world to offer respite, when one needs it oneself desperately. That’s what Diana did. Although as Princess of Wales she had to be involved in charities and the like, it was during her low, depressing time of her break-up with Prince Charles that she became actively involved in the AIDS issue and the campaign against the use of landmines. In both cases, she went out of her way to offer sympathy and unconditional love for all those oppressed and suffering. Maybe, in each one of them she saw herself and so went out of her way to offer the love that she longed so much and knew that she might never ever get.
Somewhere along the way, the little girl residing within her had died and with every relationship or social issue initiative she was only trying hard to bring that young innocent girl back to life. Her unfortunate ending only seemed to rub the harsh reality into the minds of all royals and commoners alike, that not all get to live the “happily ever after” life. Even if her ex-husband lives a supposedly fulfilling life with his ex lover, Lady Diana I hope somewhere has realized the futility of chasing an illusion.
May her soul always rest in peace.
Remembering her on her birthday